personal finance | july 17, 2020
Talking with your adult children about your future can benefit the whole family.
Create an agenda to help you stay on track during discussions.
Topics like long-term care and powers of attorney should be a part of your conversations.
Also, review your financial information and discuss important decisions.
As you prepare for the later years of your life, you may want to involve your grown children in the conversation, since your plans can have an impact on their future as well as yours. There are so many financial decisions that need to be made in retirement and so much information to handle. It’s a good idea for parents to discuss these matters openly with their adult children before any needs arise.
Consider the following suggestions for beginning this discussion with your children:
Speak in person, at times of low stress, preferably while you’re healthy.
Lead the discussion. Provide them with only as much information as you feel comfortable sharing, and find out how involved they’d like to be. Explain that they may be able to help you make your retirement planning decisions while respecting your right to accept or decline their ideas.
Consider addressing your living arrangements. Tell them how long you plan to live in your current home and what you are considering doing about housing if your situation changes.
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Setting an Agenda
Covering these subjects can help you stay on track as you talk with your family:
The location of important documents, including lists of financial providers and doctors. Compile documents, names, phone numbers, and addresses in a binder or on your computer. Keep them in a safe place, and let your children know how to access the information.
Your will and/or trusts. Make sure you have an up-to-date will and that you’ve reviewed it within the last several years to accommodate any changes in your family or your wishes. If you have any trusts, determine whether they still meet your needs by talking with an attorney.
Durable power of attorney. This document enables you to give a specified person the authority to make financial decisions on your behalf if you’re incapacitated. It’s often a good idea to add powers of attorney to your investment accounts as well. You may also want to select a “trusted contact” for your investment accounts as an added level of account protection. A trusted contact is an individual you designate who can be contacted by the financial firm if something seems amiss.
Health care directive. Also known as an advance directive, this document covers two important aspects of your medical care: a living will and a medical power of attorney. A living will provides specific end-of-life instructions for the type of medical care you desire. A medical power of attorney, also known as a durable power of attorney for health care or a health care proxy, enables you to name a person to make medical decisions for you when you are unable to do so.
Long-term care arrangements. Long-term adult day or nursing care can be expensive: upward of $200 per day and considerably more in many parts of the country. Your children should know your health care preferences and how you plan to pay for care if necessary (e.g., insurance or investments). They especially need to know if you’re counting on them for financial or physical support.
Financial information and decisions. Review your financial situation with your children to identify strategies for making the most of your money. For example, understanding each other’s financial priorities and tax situation can help you make decisions about retirement income and estate plans that benefit both generations.
It’s important to remember that you don’t have to solve everything or share the information all at once. The conversations may be very new and different for all of you—both financially and emotionally. Taking the time for an honest and open dialogue ultimately will provide everyone with greater peace of mind.
Tips for Adult Children
Taking these steps can make a difference as your parents get older.
Increase your emergency fund—Having more money available can help in the near term if you need to travel or take time from work to help your parents.
Consider the roles your siblings could play—Brothers and sisters who live near your parents could drive them to doctors’ offices or assist with chores, while a sibling who lives farther away might handle monthly bill paying.
Talk with your parents—While you don’t need to know account details, be sure your parents have a solid estate plan, including wills, trusts, a power of attorney, health care directives, and beneficiary designations.
- T. Rowe Price Research Participant*
*Source: T. Rowe Price conducted a study with focus groups that included 50 individuals.
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