personal finance  |  october 7, 2022

Important Conversations for Older Parents to Have With Their Adult Children

Talking with your adult children about your future can benefit the whole family.


Key Insights

  • Create an agenda to help you stay on track during your discussions.

  • Topics such as long-term care and powers of attorney should be a part of your conversations.

  • Discuss family members’ financial priorities and tax situations to help make the best decisions about your income and estate plan.

As you prepare for the later years of your life, you will likely want to involve your grown children in the conversation, since your plans can have an impact on their future as well as yours. There are so many financial decisions that need to be made in retirement and so much information to handle. It’s a good idea for parents to discuss these matters openly with their adult children before any needs arise.

Getting Started

Consider the following suggestions for beginning this discussion with your children:

  • Speak in person, at times of low stress, preferably while you’re healthy.

  • Lead the discussion. Provide them with only as much information as you feel comfortable sharing, and find out how involved they’d like to be. Explain that they may be able to help you make your retirement planning decisions while respecting your right to accept or decline their ideas.

Setting an Agenda

Covering these subjects can help you stay on track as you talk with your family:

It’s important to remember that you don’t have to solve everything or share the information all at once. The conversations may be very new and different for all of you—both financially and emotionally. Taking the time for an honest and open dialogue ultimately will provide everyone with greater peace of mind.

Tips for Adult Children

Taking these steps can make a difference as your parents get older.

  • Increase your emergency fund—Having more money available can help in the near term if you need to travel or take time from work to help your parents.

  • Consider the roles your siblings could play—Brothers and sisters who live near your parents could drive them to doctors’ offices or assist with chores, while a sibling who lives farther away might handle monthly bill paying.

  • Talk with your parents—While you don’t need to know account details, be sure your parents have a solid estate plan, including wills, trusts, a power of attorney, health care directives, and beneficiary designations.

*Source: In 2017, T. Rowe Price conducted a study with focus groups that included 50 individuals.

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